Seriously people…if you or someone you know is becoming more dependent on others do them a SOLID and keep their personal preferences and expressions of self in place! In my case that looks like don’t give up the sexy high end lingerie…I don’t know what it is for you that you’d rather not live without, but whatever it is get those around you on board…
This came up for me 2 weeks ago when my sainted mother bought me some “underpants” at Sam’s of all places…!st of all I DO NOT WEAR “underpants” let us be perfectly clear! I wear lingerie. I wear Prima Dona, Chantelle, La Perla, Hanky Panky, and names of that caliber. I have plenty of good panties though after my recent weightloss, another 45lbs this year, I could use a new bra fitting to be sure.
Regardless, my mother felt the need to purchase “underpants”. Which is endearing that she is thinking of me and taking care of me, though I found I had the need to instruct my sainted mother in the distinctions of lingerie. Given how much she also owns I found shocking that I needed to do so. What she bought was not only too big- think granny panties- but cheap and gross feeling as well. BLECH. how embarrassing. As embarrassing at 44 as it was at 14.
So why is this important? I think it’s important to keep certain aspects of your personality and personal expression sacred especially at a time when one is losing one’s capacities for self expression and environmental control. You must communicate the non-negotiables with your family and friends. Bless her heart, my Mom laughed about it.
For the record: I am not losing the sexy! I like the way I feel when dressed in great lingerie regardless if anyone sees it or not! You can’t take that away from me! I don’t care if I am using a walker!! Damn it. Somethings are sacred and non-negotiable!