Exactly how does one go about dating when one has a chronic illness and/or a terminal diagnosis? Anyone?
I am reminded of the line in Spamalot, ” I’m Not Dead Yet!” So I am trying to navigate this issue and I find myself with out a rudder or a sail. I gravitate to those who knew me before my symptoms began, finding comfort in the knowledge that they have seen me at the top of my game. It makes up for me feeling somehow lesser now, as in fact my capacities have diminished. I no longer sing, or even speak all the time ( I am well aware this may make me more attractive to some!). I try to have 2-3 days of not speaking per week to save up my speech for the 4 days I’m working.
I remember telling the boyfriend I was with as my symptoms became more pronounced that I felt like I was loosing my ability to kiss. He dismissed this as ridiculous, when in fact it was completely accurate. I have found myself recycling former relationships, and lets face it, while those men are fabulous, there is a reason that it didn’t workout the 1st time. So here I am, wondering is it even fair to prospect for a relationship given my expected life span and all the complications involved with the progression of ALS? Or am I just being a chicken shit?
Suggestions anyone? Other than prayer I’m fresh out of new ideas…